The term shower is often assumed to mean that the expectant mum is “showered” with gifts. A related custom, called a bridal shower, may have derived its name from the custom in Victorian times for the presents to be put inside a parasol, which when opened would “shower” the bride-to-be with gifts. In some countries, a baby shower is a way to celebrate the expected or delivered birth of a child by presenting gifts to the mother at a party, whereas other cultures host a baby shower to celebrate the transformation of a woman into a mother.
Although its been said that the idea is to ”shower” the mum to be with gifts, i much prefer to think of it as being ”showered” with love. I mean if my friends had a baby shower for me, i would be so touched, and well probably pretty emotional, that they took the time to want to spend time with me and celebrate the impending new arrival, and wouldn’t expect any gifts, although it does seen that this comes as part of the ongoing tradition!
Traditionally, baby showers are given only for the family’s first child, and only women are invited, but i have seen many variations of this. Personally i like the idea of my better half being allowed to come and take part in the celebrations. But then, i am a bad-ass and i like to break the rules. 🙂
Another idea i have spotted quite recently, although i am sure it has been going on long than i realise, is gender revealing baby showers. I need this really cute video not so long ago where the couple asked the sonographer to write down the gender of their baby and put it in an envelope. The parents to be then asked a friend to put the answer into the matching coloured balloon. When the balloons were popped it revealed they were expecting a little girl and glitter and pink petals floated everywhere. It was actually quite magical- but i do understand not everyone’s cup of tea 🙂
I don’t know what the Hospital rules are in other Countries, but when we had a scan during my pregnancy, nearly four years ago, i asked the sonographer to write down the gender on a piece of paper, with a similar special reveal of some sort in mind. But no, she down right refused to write anything down on paper. I believe its because she doesn’t want to be liable for if the gender was suggested wrong. And although i was disappointed, i understand.
Although all my friends know that i hate parties, (I’m a kinda ”I’ll hide in the corner, don’t look at me” kinda gal), i can really see the appeal in having a baby shower. Mainly for me its a celebration of life. A celebration of new life, a reflection on ones we’ve lost (Any happy situation always makes me think of the memories of deceased loved ones), and a celebration of being ”Showered with love”. I mean come on, who doesn’t love being surrounded by your nearest and dearest of friends and family and talking about the excitement of the impending arrival! And even throw a few bizarre and down right ludicrous names around the table! Pretty much a fun day for all.
So, what should one bring to a baby shower if you were hosting one for your special friend or family member? Firstly, and most importantly, YOURSELF!! What could be a better gift than that! I have seen some extremely lavish baby showers and i’m telling you now, there is no need to spend a fortune!! That’s not what its about. Instead think essentials, that don’t cost a bomb. See my list of ideas below:
- Baby Vests/ Baby grows. Ideally go a size or two up!!
- Lotions and potions. (Vaseleine, Talc, Nappy Cream (Welda is by far my favourite), Calpol/Nurofen are great for new parents to have around the house, along with Snuffle Babe Baby Vicks or Vicks Baby Rub (Do not buy regular Vicks for a baby, it may be harmful!), Baby lotions, shampoo etc.
- You can add fillers like Bibs, Hats, Mitts, Socks.
- A baby wrap/nest. These are great little gift ideas for new mums and babies. Especially ideal for bringing the new bundle home from hospital. See our Baby Nests here:
- Teething aids. (We don’t want to scare anyone, but lets face it, it can be a nightmare!) So a nice little supply of teething products is always useful. I love Teetha Granules by Nelsons. And how about a Gummee Glove? They are great little inventions! See our Gummee Gloves here:
There are many other items you could add to the list. But i have keep it cheap, cheerful and practical here! You could extend your ideas to suit your budget.
- New Slippers, Jammies, Dressing Gown are always nice!
- Don’t forget the choccies and Bubbly (Non Alcoholic!)
- Bath Bombs and Body Lotions.
- Candles! A sweet smelling fragrance can be a great gift. But nothing to over powering, she might not love you for it!!
- Novelty Gifts. Lets face it, this could possibly be the first time expectant mum has ever received a gift with ”Mum” written all over it, and that feeling is priceless!! Jewellery, Mugs, Picture Frames, Photo Albums… you name it, she’ll love it!!
- Pregnancy Journal or Keepsake box. We often concentrate on keepsake boxes for baby, and its a very popular gift so i left it out of the list below. But mums love looking back on little Milestones though Pregnancy and Birth. A place to keep all the special things you collect along the way!
I would be very interested to see if you have ever had or held a Baby Shower! And what were your experiences?
So, after all this Baby Shower talk, our exciting news is that over the coming weeks we will be stocking baby shower decorations and gifts for mum to be! So you can buy a selection of must haves to help you organise a special day for that special person in your life!
More details to follow, keep an eye on our Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/ItsybitsybutterfliesStore/
Or here on our website: www.itsybitsybutterflies.ie
Have a lovely day! 🙂